Ask the Coach: To Stay or to Leave Egypt?

Ask the Coach: To Stay or to Leave Egypt?

Editor’s Note: Ask the Coach is a service offered in partnership with Ruba Homaidi, a leading holistic counselor and life coach. Get your troubling questions answered through the this link or contact us directly.

Question: I am struggling with the decision to stay in my homeland Egypt or to Leave. I am attached to the sheltered lifestyle here, my family and my friends; however, rationally speaking I would be compromising my future career prospects and quality of life by remaining in Egypt. The problem is I am someone who relies heavily on intuition, and currently I am completely torn and can’t envision either decision with happy calm thoughts. What should I do?

Coach Replies:

Intuition and feelings are a very important part of our decision making, I will agree with you. However, when feelings are compounded and overwhelming they act like “interrupters” to our intuition “signal” metaphorically speaking, thus we are not as clear as we normally would be.

First of all changing countries affects us directly on the “grounding” level, that is we literally feel like a tree being uprooted, it might flourish beautifully in its new “soil”, however the process triggers a strong existential “fear”, you feel like your life is literally in danger, it might manifest as “stress” so look out for this feeling and literally “name it”, telling yourself this is fear, but I am in no danger, sends the message to your brain that you know what is going on and you can handle it, which will calm you down.

Another feeling that may be triggered is “anger,” especially if you are not in charge of this decision or you don’t feel you have a choice around it (even if it is subtle, so for example you worry about upsetting your mum if you decide not to go, or everyone else will be leaving so you are left with no choice). Anger also needs to be acknowledged, a simple hitting a pillow or pushing away a wall, will help channel this anger safely.

Giving attention to those emotions while remaining present will start to shift you out of the “stuck” state you are experiencing at the moment, and the next steps will become clear as and when they are becoming available to you, moving if right for you will start to show up more as the next natural step rather than a heavy decision that needs to be made.

Best of luck

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